Putting Loctite on the screw seemed like a good idea at the time; the locking screw was loosening when I went on long walks.  But when Mistress went to unlock me for my biweekly cleaning she couldn’t budge it.  We had to use a second screwdriver for leverage.  Good thing I didn’t useredLoctite, or I would be in permanent chastity right now.
Hmm….permanent chastity….

Putting Loctite on the screw seemed like a good idea at the time; the locking screw was loosening when I went on long walks.  But when Mistress went to unlock me for my biweekly cleaning she couldn’t budge it.  We had to use a second screwdriver for leverage.  Good thing I didn’t useredLoctite, or I would be in permanent chastity right now.

Hmm….permanent chastity….

mistresselle asked:

They make great devices, and yes they are so nice and wonderful to work with! We got the security screw as well, seems to work better then a padlock for everyday wear though still fun to use the padlock sometimes. A great device to keep him locked up a little longer term! :)

mistresselle asked:

Looking at a few of your pictures, looks like you might be locked in a Mature Metal cage. Is that correct? My husband is locked in one as well, a Watchful Mistress.

That’s right!  My main device is a Mature Metal Pet Trap, with the security screw upgrade.  Mature Metal are nice folks and always very accessible to answer questions.

multiperv asked:

Okay, after going back further and seeing those pics of your full suspensions I seriously doubt your Mistress was a "convert" by you so please excuse the stupid question. Instead, I am quite curious to hear how you two met or found each other, if you don't mind sharing. And I was hoping you'd tell us about any rules you live under (like, apparently you regularly sleep on the floor) as her sub/slave. Oh, and the Box looks very cool and promising, you may want to commercialize that!

OK, I think I answered part of this in the last one.  Regarding rules, there is really only one rule:  “Obey Mistress”.  She makes all the decisions for our household and when she gives orders she expects them to be followed immediately. 

The rest of it is just good Mistress/slave etiquette.  Little things—like addressing her as Mistress, or kneeling when she enters or leaves the apartment—help reinforce our roles and instill a pattern of obedience.  Sort of like ranks and saluting in the military.

We both agree that sleeping on the floor is appropriate.  That way from the time I first wake up in the morning I am looking up at her and it reminds me who’s the boss.  Also, she likes having the whole bed to herself.  (And hey, it’s good for my back, too).  She just told me the other day that she is going to buy a smaller bed now that she doesn’t have to share any more, which will make the bedroom much less cramped.    

There are a few other standing orders.  I’m not allowed to play with anyone but her (she doesn’t like to share her toys).  I’m not allowed to talk about chastity or our sex life with anyone (this blog doesn’t count, because it’s anonymous and she censors it at will).  I’m not allowed to play with anal toys (She says I was enjoying my butt plugs too much and it was violating the spirit of being in chastity.  Only she gets to use my ass).  I’m not allowed to take hormones or get cosmetic surgery or anything else that might have permanent effects.  (Cross-dressing, however, is actively encouraged).  There are others, but those are the ones that come to mind right now. 

multiperv asked:

Just found your blog and like it already. Re. the recent strap-on pic, I (also male) tried one a time or two but found it sort of flopping around and unsatisfying. Do you have think I have a poor model or fit or is it the same for you and I just need to adjust to working with what I've, er, it's got. Also, I was wondering if your Mistress was already kinky when you met or or if you 'lured her to the dark side' : )?

Thanks for the kind words, Multi.  It’s always gratifying to get feedback and find out someone is actually looking at the blog!

I think the “floppy strap-on” problem is due to most harnesses being designed for chicks, so they don’t fit guys very well.  If you look closely you’ll see I had to do some tailoring on mine to make it fit (the lighter colored zig-zag thread on the waistband).  I basically rolled the waistband over and sewed it down to take up about 2” of slack in front.  I used a Speedy-Stitch sewing awl, which is a great investment if you’re into fetish gear.  In the ideal fit, the whole harness should be skin tight and there should be hardly any slop.  Hopefully some day they’ll come up with a harness specifically to fit guys that doesn’t cost a fortune.

Mistress and I met through very conventional channels.  Within the first few weeks enough hints were dropped that we realized we shared a long standing interest in BDSM.  Even so, our present relationship is the result of several years of evolution.  There were lots of intermediate steps between “mostly vanilla with occasional kinky scenes” and “24-7 D/s”.  

Dear Followers

Sorry the updates have been few and far between recently.  Mistress gave me permission to go back to school and take an advanced degree in my field.  It’s wonderful to belong to a mistress who supports me and encourages me to better myself.  Unfortunately, between the volume of reading required for my program and my responsibilities as Mistress’ full-time housekeeper, I am finding I have very little time left for blogging.  Bear with me, though, and I promise I will have more pictures up soon. 

In the meanwhile, feel free to send me your questions or suggestions for things you would like to see in the future.